As I step back into Wendy’s Chronicles I remember that “Time is of the Essence” when it comes to non – custodial parent and child. The nasty process and bitterness between two parents over a child is sometimes appalling to say the least. A child is split up between legal documents signed, sealed and delivered on the behalf of ex-husband/wife or baby mama/daddy drama. The schedule has been etched in stone concerning visitations rights. The child support has been measured by state guidelines with terms/conditions based on both incomes. The reality of the expiration of the relationship of a person you once cared for or loved has been terminated. Now you wait to see if the non- custodial parent stays around or leaves their precious jewel behind; the fact of the matter is the jewel needs to be polished by four hands not just two.
As time goes by there are scenarios as to why the non- custodial parent might disappear. First scenario, they do not want to follow the set schedule the court system documented on paper for visitations. Second, they do not or cannot pay the terms of child support that was laid out for them. Last scenario, you let family members influence you of letting the other parent in or out the child’s life. Whatever, the case might be the non- custodial parent does not plead or fight for their rights and run away for their own selfish reasons.
Now let’s picture the non- custodial parent has not paid child support and has disappeared for a while, but later has returned to build a relationship with the child. So, what do you do? Well, the importance here is the establishment of a relationship between parent and child. Yes, I have struggled financially without the child support. Yes, I have had the experience of a missing Father all my life. Sometimes we have to put our personal issues aside and facilitate to our children what might be best for them. Give them the freedom of choice. Trust me the good, the bad and the ugly of the other parent will surface and if the relationship goes south you will be there to comfort and support your child and life goes on.
From my personal experience, as a child I often wondered why my skin tone was a few shades lighter than my Mother’s, I often wondered why I tucked my lips inward, I often wondered why I had a sense of humor and the ability to tell long stories to make others laugh. Then I often asked myself, “would my choices in life been better or worse,” or “would I have been protected from harm’s way,” all were questions that crossed my mind if my Father was around. My Father returned in my life March 2002 just a few months shy of my fortieth birthday. I was blessed for nine short years to establish a loving, joyful and was taught some lifelong lessons by my Father before he passed away August 22, 2011. Miss you Daddy…..so see time is of the essence!
Wendy L. Harvey, an
inventor with determination that mobilized her life through corporate America
that led this savvy business woman to ignite her entrepreneurial spirit. Her
diligence forced her to develop 7Faith Productions, LLC a multi-media company.
7Faith Productions, LLC is currently becoming a sought after publishing company
for upcoming authors.