By Wendy L. Harvey
We all have sung the song a time or two called “Love the one you’re with” by different artists with different melodies. It probably never occurred to start with loving you …Yes, “You’re the one you’re with!
Women have the tendencies to forget about the act of self-love because we were programmed to be the major nurturers in everyone’s life and to make ourselves the sacrificial lambs for the sake of love for others. We begin with the family, then men in our life, children, friends, and later our aging parents which is a given must. We become high achievers in love and become grossly profound illustrators of love for others until we prefect the definition that we personally come to know as self - love.
The process of love takes hours of accumulation for development of procedures, rules/regulations, trials/errors, morals/values…the best example should be the use of self-love though; and then we can experiment on others. We as women somehow need to use that old adage of “practice makes perfect” on self- love first. If we practice self-love then we would have a better definition of one’s ability/capability of our love level. Self-love begins to arrange the symphony of a sound structure of the do’s/don’ts, the joy/pain of what love can bring and the basics of the good, bad and ugly. Learn to understand the challenges and lessons of self-love that are needed for yourself with your passing or failing of grades before you attempt to love others; if you can’t love the one you’re with…you will be unable to love others. When you dive into the manifestation of self-love you can give the greatest gift of love to others in your life.
Today, begin with your “Self- Love”…it’s not too late; no matter how young/old you are nor what past experiences you have been subjected to. Look in the mirror; really look at what you love about yourself. Now pass the physical attributes and focus/analyze on your gifts/talents that God has given you from his love. Lastly, figure out ways that maybe you can start to love yourself a little more. Start to journal your love diagnose/process so you can always use this as a reference guide for yourself to see your progress in your life before others.
Be your own sacrificial lamb for self-love by “Loving the one you’re with!
If you are interested in the “Self- Love” course coming up; email firstname.lastname@example.org