I know it hurts like hell that you endured a brutal, frightening and abusive relationship or marriage! I know it hurts like hell that your kids were exposed to such a traumatic and devastating ordeal. I know it hurts like hell that you are forced to raise your kids alone! I know it hurts like hell that you have become a single mom! Know you are not alone.
Like you, I was punched, kicked, cursed and beaten into a decision to leave! I became a single mom because I no longer wished to expose my daughter to such appealing behavior. Visualizing my daughters’ tears and sadness I couldn’t lie down and play dead to my situation. My daughter was relying on me to build a successful path for her. I had to shake off the hurt and pain and take the bull by the horns and start running the race. Frankly, I had no other alternative!
All mothers wish for their kids to be raised in an environment with daddy and mommy but unfortunately we can’t change the hand that is being dealt. Honestly, it is extremely devastating and at the same time challenging to come to grips with your situation because you are family orientated; however, being a single mom is not the end of the world. Our communities are filled with many strong, famous and successful single moms like Halle Berry and Erykah Badu. You will not be the first and certainly you will not be the last.
Life have pulled and pushed you in every direction and it is time to free yourself and break the chains. The tables have turned on you and you have to do whatever it takes to get back on track. The only way you can possibly get back on track is learning how to take a timeout to relax. Relax in that secret place by yourself!!! ME-TIME!!!!
As you relax your body, it is refueling, reenergizing and repowering. The best form of relaxation is meditation. Meditating is a technique used to relax the mind, body and soul. It actually shuts out all the worldly distractions and the negativity. Take a moment to be in a quiet room, sit back, close your eyes and picture a huge field with nothing but green grass. Picture the blue sky, the white clouds suspended in the air. Watch the rainbow in the back of the scenery. Observe the waterfall in the middle of the mountains and the birds flying around singing sweet melodies. Take deep breathes in and out. Take “self” into the dynamics of serenity.
I wish for you to live again for you and your kids. Open your eyes and acknowledge that you are an important commodity and you matter a whole lot. You were in an unhealthy and unsafe relationship and change had to transpire. You are now a single mom and it is not an easy task but you have to do whatever is required to raise your kids. Occasionally, you will feel the pressure and the ruthlessness of being a single mom and as a result when those times come upon you take a time out! Refuel, reenergize and repower and jump back in the race. You will make it!
Kathy Elliott is a powerful motivational speaker that focuses on changing lives. Creator of Women’s Motivational Services in New York which was founded in 2008 designed to help women find their purpose in life. She is author of several motivational books “Marriage Separation Divorce Regaining the Light”, “Success – Handbook for Teens/Young Adults, “Never, ever give up-13 Successful Principles to achieving your Dreams” ,“Domestic Violence Awareness-Real Life Stories and Be Awesome – Uncover Yourself.
She is a domestic violence awareness activist and speaker at domestic violence shelters monthly and hold a yearly fundraiser event. Kathy says “Life is a hell of a teacher and no matter what you are faced with you can never, ever give up.”