Oh, did I hear someone say it is because of love? Love should have made him support you in your journey. Love is not bitter, jealous or envious. Love is supporting your partner even if you think the idea is the craziest thing in this world. Every person needs a supportive mate. What happens when you are faced with the hurdles and the many pitfalls of life, and you need that shoulder to cry on and your mate doesn't show up - then what? This is going to be the most devastating time of your life, because you are going to expect that person to be there for you and he will not. Kick him to the curb!
Yes, I heard someone mumbling this question: What happens if the person you are with tricked you? My husband, spouse or boyfriend pretended to be the charming, sweet talker and smooth talker at the beginning of the relationship? After you have discovered his trickery, it is at all times your decision whether this person should remain in your life.
Remember, this is your life and you have to do everything vital for your own growth and survival. If this is not the right man, why keep this person in your life? As a matter of fact, if this person deceived you, why keep this person in your life to deceive you even more? Get rid of the problem in the early stages!
Don't go for the bad boy image. Bad boys deal with drugs, guns, run ins with the law and have very risky behavior. These are men that have identity problems and seek constant attention. Don't get involved thinking that their actions won't have any impact on you. It will affect you, if not in the short run, then in the future. Remember, these are men that have no limits to their behavior; therefore, expect headaches and turmoil.
I love the changing question that you ask yourselves. People can change, can't they? You honestly want to believe that people are going to change. Realize, if people don't think something is wrong with them doesn't necessarily mean they see something wrong with themselves. No one will change because you want them to change. People have to want to change.
Kathy Elliott is a powerful motivational speaker that focuses on changing lives. Creator of Women’s Motivational Services in New York which was founded in 2008 designed to help women find their purpose in life. She is author of several motivational books “Marriage Separation Divorce Regaining the Light”, “Success – Handbook for Teens/Young Adults, “Never, ever give up-13 Successful Principles to achieving your Dreams” ,“Domestic Violence Awareness-Real Life Stories and Be Awesome – Uncover Yourself.
She is a domestic violence awareness activist and speaker at domestic violence shelters monthly and hold a yearly fundraiser event. Kathy says “Life is a hell of a teacher and no matter what you are faced with you can never, ever give up.”